Between my Twitter friends and my real life friends (and my own personal life experiences), it breaks my heart to see people stuck in these unhappy, imbalanced relationships.
I’ve dealt with a narcissist in the past, so I think I have some room to talk on this – and I really wish that wasn’t the case, for myself or anyone.
But the reality is that when you deal with someone who is so skilled in controlling you, then lovebombs you, then abuses you, makes you doubt your own sanity, it is extremely hard to leave. But it’s more than worth it, even if it hurts for awhile. Even if it costs you a ton of therapy just to heal from the trauma.
I questioned calling my experiences “trauma” because I wasn’t being totally beaten, I wasn’t covered in bruises. Not really, anyway. I could’ve had it so much worse.
Psychological abuse is still abuse. It still creates trauma responses and causes deep, hard-to-heal damage. If you can get away, do it. If you can’t, then at least come up with a plan to leave. Below are some numbers/links that might help:
If you’ve cut off friends and family as a result of the abuse, I’m almost positive that they’ll still be there when you’re ready to reach out.
And please don’t think these resources aren’t helpful to all genders in these situations. It happens to more than just women. I hope these help, and stay safe.